Thanks - maybe those of us who haven't towed that much won't know any better! LOL So many things in life are a compromise, and I definately see RVing as being a big example of that. I researched the V8 4R for a year and a half. I wanted something that was a mid-sized SUV, good towing ability, good offroad, good safety features, and high quality.
So how many other SUV's would fit all those categories? But I know that going mid-sized was something of a compromise on account of the shorter WB. Therefore I compensated with a Hensley hitch, which I got used for $1300. People using it all say it totally eliminates sway & squirely behavior.
Over on the RV forum there has been several raging threads about the merits of towing with a smaller vehicle. Those with the big trucks (F250-350, Cummins diesels, etc.) railed against the idea that anything smaller could tow well, and that it was a downright safety hazzard! But some experts on there "testified" that using smaller rigs gave an immediate payoff in the air drag dept., and could be done quite safely - and provided examples where it has been done for many years.
Now there are several people on that forum who are towing larger ulralight trailers (designed specifically for smaller SUVs & trucks) successfully. In fact, many of these smaller rigs have a better weight ratio (truck to trailer) than the monster rigs where the trailers outweigh the tow vehicles by double.
There are things to consider, however, to make sure the smaller rigs are safe. Brakes are a factor, and that's why I choose the Sport 4R with the lager brakes. As I mentioned, I bought the premium hitch to prevent sway. Also have a brake controller that works very well with this combination (Jordan). Lastly I will tow around 62 MPH (for safety & mileage).
I just hated the idea that I would have this huge engine going to waste most of the time when not pulling. Also, a large truck wouldn't be as good offroad. Lastly, a large truck/SUV would not even fit in my garage! The 4R fills that space completly as it is!