Just wanted to follow up once again for anyone else chasing something like this in the future. Did not do the lower control arm bushings. I wanted to try pretty much everything else before I tried to tackle that job. Took my wheels/tires over to discount tire and had them rebalanced on the road force balancer. Guy said two were out by 1oz, one was spot on, and one he didn't know because they took the old weights off before checking it. Took the truck for a drive after and the shake was still there at ~40 but better at higher speeds. Talking with the guy at discount tire, he said, you have regular acorn style lugs, if it's still shaking a little we might try a different lug that has a longer shank that extends into the wheel. Well, I put a set of those on and it must have been able to center the wheel better, becuase 98% of the shake/vibration is now gone.
Here's what I had:
Style that fixed my issue:
I've had those wheels and lug nuts for at least 10 years and it didn't start having an issue until I swapped out to 33's. I was always careful mounting the wheels and doing the first 3 lugs in a triangle pattern tapping the wheel a lot to make sure it was centered and I still had issues with it. So for $45 if someone else is having an issue and is using the acorn style lug nuts, maybe try that.