To further correct some of your misinformation, steering wheel shaking when braking is a sign of front rotors that have excessive lateral runout which is commonly referred to as warped rotors. It can also be caused by hot spots or glazing on the surface of the rotor causing a slip/grip situation for the brake pads. It's very rarely caused by worn tie rod ends. Worn tie rod ends typically cause a loose steering feeling and a change in toe which usually presents itself in bad tire wear patterns.

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Like I said one symptom can have many causes and your dealership shit kicks in. Read my post again carefully I said the toe in problem he has which cause that specific wear pattern can be caused by worn tie rod end links and cause steering shake also. I've had this exact problem before. How is that misinformation??? Everything you said is correct but not the only fix. Does this make sense..

I think the brakes vibration is from the brakes themselves. I was told that I've been going through my tires, wearing the outsides of them, because of the control arm bushings. You think that's not correct?

Have you even tried watching any of Timmy’s videos yet? Anyone can do this stuff, it’s really not hard(a bit time consuming though). You might throw some swear words out here and there but you will get it done and it won’t cost you 8k. You could buy another 4runner for that price and they probably won’t even use OEM Toyota parts. Just use your mechanics report as a general guide of what you should address first. I’d do new rotors/pads/drums/shoes, all new fluids, lower ball joints, timing belt, and radiator hoses first thing. Timing belt is the only one you might need outside help on but even that is do able on your own, it’s also probably going to be the most expensive repair if you get someone else to do it.

I read your entire post. I also looked at the photos of his tire wear. Based on those photos it's not likely to be loose tie rod ends causing the minor amount of tire wear. Like I said the most likely cause of shaking while braking is indeed a problem with the brakes. Loose tie rod ends will be all the time not just while braking.

It could be numerous things. I usually just jack the front end up and start checking all the balls and bushings by shaking them around with a good amount of force looking for play. You can use a crowbar also to move the joints around looking for play. Be careful with the crowbar! I move the steering wheel back and forth to listen for weird clunks also. Just some quick checking. 👍