It's in the manual:
I think 75W-90 is only available in synthetic or synthetic blend.
I don't think 90W or 80W are available any more, but 80W-90 should be fine. 75W-90 might work too?
I read somewhere that it's bad to use synthetic in a differential that calls for conventional because it will cause it to leak, but I can't imagine how that would be true?
Lighter oil like 75W-90 might improve gas mileage slightly and should work better in cold weather.
The transfer case has a Torsen differential, so I would stick with what it calls for. I don't think any friction modifiers are necessary since it doesn't really use friction, but I guess it doesn't hurt if it's in there? Or so they say.
For the front and rear I can't imagine it matters much. It's weird that the V6 front calls for 75W-90, but the V8 front calls for 90W and has a slightly lower capacity. Are they different?