Just had it installed Friday. Measured the fronts and both were at 24" which is 5" over stock 19". The back was 23.5" which is 2.5 over stock 21". I have a 2004 v8 Limited. How much can I expect the suspension to settle? I took 1/2" of threads out the front and got both sides down to 23.25".
Is the stock ride height I quoted correct. I made the mistake of not measuring what I had before dropping it off.

I can offer my experience not sure if it will answer your questions though. My measurements are axle to fender. Installed Boss kit on my 2005 V8 two weeks ago. Drivers side front was 18.75" before lift and 23.5" after. Passenger front was just under 19" before lift and 24" after. I adjusted both sides down to 23". CV angles definitely improved after adjustment. It is my understanding that 19" is factory front height. So overall 4" front lift at this point still seems like a lot but again I think the CV angles are pretty good and even without an alignment and 50K+ balding tires it drives very well. Rear driver side was 21" before lift and 23.5" after. Rear passenger was 21.5 before lift and 23.5 after. I think mine may settle some more so I'm driving it a bit before I get it aligned.

I'm not 100% sure what the stock height should be, but it sounds like you had about the same amount of lift that I did.
I've got a 2005 v6, 2wd. I just installed the Boss Toytec lift about 3 months ago. If I remember correctly it came down maybe 1/2- 3/4 inch after it settled.
In the end I gained may 4 or 5 inches in the front and the 2.5 or so in the back. But, that's what it took to have the front and back level. I'm at around 38 1/4, from the ground, all around (on 265/70/R17's).

Since I've only got 2wd, and installed new UCA, and everything was aligned to spec, I wasn't worried about gaining more then 3" in the front.

My measurements are pretty much the same as yours. Thanks.

One more question. What are you using for a jack to lift and change out a tire if you had to?

For now, bottle jack and a thick block of wood.