Okay! now that I can see more, we might be on to something.
The new port the besy buy guys installed seems entirely separate from what we're looking for, for better or worse.
I went and checked my own harness to see if I could determine if there are real differences we're looking at.
That 2 pin connector with the red and green wires? NO IDEA what that is, but I have one too. also unused.
That 6 pin connector? On a "smokers kit" equipped 4r, that powers one of the 2 12v sockets and powers the illuminated ring around it. That 6 pin connector should be on the end of part of the vehicle harness that branches out into the 6 pin, a 2 pin (the one you need) and if applicable, the Downhill Assist Control button connector. Look at the 4th picture here:
OEM smokers kit/Extra Power Port to see the 6pin in use, along with the 2pin we're looking for.
The third picture here:
Smokers Kit / Extra 12V Outlet Installed shows the DAC button connector and the 2 pin we want connected.
I think we need to check the part of the harness starting at that 6pin connector. if we can free it up/look at the first few inches behind the plug, we should either see the other plug we want, or we'll see for sure that it was cut off.