I did this job on my 04 a few months back. 4R005 is correct, it's a 35mm socket. The FSM states the torque on the axle nut is 173ft lbs.
If you have an impact gun, it will make your life easier getting that bolt off. Otherwise, a longer breaker bar is required. To get to that 173 ft lbs torque, you will need a bigger torque wrench. Most common torque wrench used typically goes up to 150 ft lbs, and even still that's a challenge.
I bought a Tekton torque wrench off amazon that did the job very well:
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I think the 35mm socket I bought is also from TekTon.
I also attached a section from the FSM that covers all the torque values:
It's not a difficult job. There's several YouTube videos out there on how to do this.