Hey Folks.
I have also been through the same battles with Toyota over the 2003 Upgraded hitch package. When I purchased the 4Runner in October of last year, the hitch was supposedly available for about $350CDN, but I opted out at the time knowing I wouldn't need it till spring.
Just a month ago I went in looking for an exact price on the hitch again, but this time it wasn't even listed in there parts manual. The parts guy told me that sometimes Toyota pulls a part when they have problems with it... but usually release it some time later when all of the bugs are worked out (take that with a grain of salt though).
I am a bit frustrated, how can Toyota advertise that their vehicle can tow 7200 when it really can't ??
I am glad to see that hidden hitch now has a product, but what about Toyota....