You're going to have to try out the different vehicles and decide for yourself.
As you can see from the responses here, everybody likes a different feel to their vehicle and everybody is built differently.
As far as I go, I'm 6'5 and hover between 270 and 280 and I don't feel cramped in my TRD...
I bought an Off Road (Not Premium) not too long ago. I chose to forgo the KDSS and it hasn't been a problem for me in the slightest. That said, if I was driving on the interstate with a ton of other traffic each day, I may change my decision.
As far as the color goes: You stated that you plan...