I agree. Talk to a person 'in the know'. I am a long-time Jeep guy who tried to figure out my lift on my own. I took some good advise and contacted an expert. It worked out great.
I now have a 2013 TE and working on what I want to do first to my rig.
Bilstein 3 lift
This lift seems to be spot on for a 3" lift. I am new to lifting a 4runner. I picked up a 2013 4Runner TE with 60k miles. All the information you all are talking about is helpful.