I use the same filter wrench from Motiv. There's many different brands and they all pretty much do the same thing. As far as the filter drain, the tool just pushes into the filter housing by hand. You shouldn't be using a hammer. Just make sure to line it up with the hole and give it a good...
So you want to install the entire headlight assembly onto your 2011? Unfortunately, that won't be possible without major body work as they are entirely different shapes. What most people do is simply retrofit the existing headlight using new projectors.