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I'd stay with her, it's probably nothing.
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I'd stay with her, it's probably nothing.
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Kissing or not, that's too close for comfort, she's out.
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Kissing or not, that's too close for comfort, she's out.
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19.09% |
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That's cheating. Plain and simple.
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That's cheating. Plain and simple.
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I'd be pissed but ultimately stay with her and work it out.
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I'd be pissed but ultimately stay with her and work it out.
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I'd have trouble trusting her, and doubtfully attempt to make it work.
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I'd have trouble trusting her, and doubtfully attempt to make it work.
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I would flip a shit!
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14.55% |
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I would flip a shit!
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14.55% |
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Am I not enough?
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2.73% |
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Options 2, 3 and 6 combined.
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22.73% |
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Options 2, 3 and 6 combined.
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22.73% |
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Options 1, 4 and 5 combined.
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Options 1, 4 and 5 combined.
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7.27% |
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Other (specify)
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03-23-2010, 10:07 PM
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Scenario: Your girlfriend stays the night with a guy on his couch...
Okay this is for the guys. I won't go into any details so don't ask.
(oh and you guys can add this to the list of my weird polls)
Here's the scenario:
Two months into your relationship your girlfriend went to a party while away at college and ended up staying till 5am when she crashed on the couch with some guy she'd been getting close with the past few weeks. She didn't tell you until 15 months and several trust-related issues later.
She maintains that they were on opposite sides of the couch, that she didn't cheat and that she's never had a thing for him.
Looking at this situation alone, what would be your reaction? Vote, but feel free to elaborate in your post...
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03-23-2010, 10:23 PM
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I'd stay with her, it's probably nothing. But it'd suck if she's your very first girlfriend. 
So maybe she's just testing you and see how you react. 
If not, then she was just being honest with you and didn't keep it to herself. How many ladies would tell that to their boyfriends? OR how many men out there would tell that to their girlfriends? Other than that, she's only your girlfriend. One of you can always break the relationship if it doesn't kinder.
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03-23-2010, 10:36 PM
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I'd be upset and it would set me back in the trust department. But if you've been together for 15 months without too many reasons to doubt her, I don't think I'd hold it against her.
If there have been several "trust related issues", though, I might cut her loose. Once a cheater, always a cheater if you ask me.
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03-23-2010, 11:44 PM
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heres the deal if she did this 2 months after you met her then no big deal....and yall have been together for 15 months now...u dont have anything to worry about...now if you dont trust her for other reasons then you need to kick that b#$^h to the curb....trust is a the biggest part in a relationship...i have been with my wife for 6 years and trust her with my life...
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03-24-2010, 12:02 AM
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If things don't turn out right; whatever you do, don't turn it into domestic violence.
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03-24-2010, 12:07 AM
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step 1 try to get with her friend
if step 1 fails
step 2 make her sing on the mike one last time and throw her out.
im sorry but any girl in a relationship shouldn't put herself in that postion.
if she did or didnt isn't the issue she was there. It's like sticking up a bank
but not following up. your up shits creak already your an idiot if you dont go through with it.
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03-24-2010, 03:08 AM
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Originally Posted by LINY4Runner
Okay this is for the guys. I won't go into any details so don't ask.
(oh and you guys can add this to the list of my weird polls)
Here's the scenario:
Two months into your relationship your girlfriend went to a party while away at college and ended up staying till 5am when she crashed on the couch with some guy she'd been getting close with the past few weeks. She didn't tell you until 15 months and several trust-related issues later.
She maintains that they were on opposite sides of the couch, that she didn't cheat and that she's never had a thing for him.
Looking at this situation alone, what would be your reaction? Vote, but feel free to elaborate in your post...
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Dump her. I'm an F-18 pilot. I've done more than my share of "dating". I wasted SOOO much effing time. I'd be happy to tell you minute one when it's time to ditch the ***** and it's time. If she was in to you that would have felt wrong to her, plain and simple. It's over.
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03-24-2010, 03:45 AM
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She was there, she didn't tell you before, during, or after. That's all you need to know. Make sure you dump her, quickly before she feels the need to confess any more.
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03-24-2010, 07:35 AM
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Just a little reminder, this is a WHAT WOULD YOU DO? poll not WHAT SHOULD I DO.
I already know what I need to do and already took care of it...I wanna see what you guys would do in that situation
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03-24-2010, 07:45 PM
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Quote:
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Just a little reminder, this is a WHAT WOULD YOU DO? poll not WHAT SHOULD I DO.
I already know what I need to do and already took care of it...I wanna see what you guys would do in that situation
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Ohhhh i see. I'd keep her.
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03-24-2010, 08:51 PM
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Well, somebody's gotta say it: PIIHB  
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03-24-2010, 09:45 PM
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Well, somebody's gotta say it: PIIHB |
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my friend once said;
Hit it once.
Hit it twice.
Leave.
I have walked away from an 8 month relationship when it became more about her doing what she wanted without consideration of how it affected us.
After two weeks of "taking a break" I had enough.
And then she wanted to get back together 6 months later.
If I were in said situation this weekend I would reconsider if we wanted the same thing out of the relationship we were in. It would be time for a talk. I would probably walk away and not look back. 
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She's out.
Seems she has a thing for the other dude, if they've been getting close for the last couple weeks. There's probably something between month two through fifteen. She couldn't sleep on the floor, another room, or whatever, if there was trully no feelings.
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LINY, what did you do?
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LINY, what did you do?
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What needed to be done.
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