Here's a post on Tundra Solutions that pretty well sums up the situation.
http://www.tundrasolutions.com/forum...xle-fixed-3-a/
I just went through this about 4 months ago with a 2000 Tacoma. The mechanic I took it to (a guy at an independent shop that I know personally, and not a dealer), has seen this several times before on 3rd Gen 4Runners and Taco's of the same years, and says he has never had one come back. He agrees that the key is to use the re-designed seals, Toyota part 90310-50006. I would think that your "Toyota man" would know about that, but you never know. If you have part numbers on the receipts, check them.