Excellent links, 2004Runner! I particularly like the tent that stands alone or can be connected to the back of the truck. That way, I don't need to unload everything and when I go trailriding, I can leave the sleeping items in the tent without disassembling everything and still keep certain luxuries in the truck for offroad chowing. Besides, the truck now serves as an extra bunk for kids, friends, or whoever you meet on the road.
As far as the magnets are concerned, I haven't had experiencing with glue melting, but it makes sense. Unfortunately, not all of us are talented enough to seam things up on our own (I'm not even sure if my girlfriend knows anything about sewing). But, that is certainly the best option.
How about those seam strips that you use with an iron? I used that with some with a velcro enclosure I used on one of my tents. It worked great in the California and Utah deserts.
Lastly, kglue, are your magnets exposed or are they "encased" in the material? I would think that surrounding the magnets completely with the material would help prevent scratches. And providing that either the material is thin & durable enough or that the magnets are strong enough (or both), this would be the best solution while ensuring a bug-proof seal.
Great options, everyone!