What's with all the SR5 haters? LOL just kidding.

I opted for the SR5 because of the soft ride compared to my daily driver. My DD has a "sport-tuned" suspension and after driving it during the work week, I needed a vehicle so soothe my back.

My dd also has a dark interior similar to the SE. My 4Runner has the taupe cloth interior which I think is more upscale...although taupe leather seats would have been nice.

BTW, the new Highlander is out. Have you and your wife checked it out? I think there is more rear legroom and headroom than the 4Runner. Oddly enough the price on a Sport Highlander V6 AWD is comparable or more expensive than a V8 4Runner SE 4WD. [per CarMax.com]