I've had mine for slightly over a year. I'm sitting in my office surrounded by boxes of suspension components that I'm planning to install in the next few weeks. I wanted to give it a year and see what it was capable of out of the box--- I'm glad I did.
The softex wears great. Passengers rave about it. Some days I tell them it's not real leather, some days I just keep my mouth shut. The softness really seems to fool a lot of people. Wet microfiber cloth does the trick. Dog hair doesn't seem to be attracted to it at all.
I haven't had experience with a lift and KDSS just yet, although I'm in the camp that doesn't really care if it leans a bit. I don't have the inclination to run around my vehicle with a tape measure, and my driveway is uneven to begin with. It if leans, I'll back it in and it will lean the other way.
KDSS is amazing on the highway. A month in to ownership I had to swerve around an animal at highway speed and my passenger (a car guy) went on and on about the lack of body roll. It was pretty amazing actually. I believe the benefit is just giant swaybars at highway speed. It's VERY nice having that stability on the road though.
I get poor mileage with E rated 265 BFG KO2's. 16-17 mpg. I can't get anywhere close to 18-20+ that people on this forum seem to be getting with skids and roof racks and stadium lighting on their rigs, and I drive like an old lady.
Had an odd noise at highway speed that was intermittent.... like a windy day would set it off. It was the plastic clips that hold the aprons in the wheelwells. 5 minute fix, never came back.
No electrical or mechanical issues-- and more importantly, it comes out of 4x4 when I throw the lever.... No more staring at a blinking green light on a dash waiting for a vehicle to come out of 4x4. The ADD takes a second to engage/disengage, but it's very quick.
likes:
The sad look on a highlander owner's face when you roll that back window down.
Dislikes: Oil change is a rigmarole. I have 8 free ones with the dealer, so I guess I won't be changing oil for a while.
Overall a very happy owner. I take this vehicle everywhere. There's no stopping it, except for my clearance, which has not really been an issue for me