Dad won't let me get out.

[Mason Fresh]

He's being an irrational old man and says I can't go to dinner with my friends on the last night of break because "enough is enough, Mason, you have no self control and don't know when to say no." I do not have school tomorrow but that doesn't matter to him - so I say, can you please provide me with a good explanation as to why I can't go to dinner with my friends tonight, Dad replies, "I don't need an argument, no means no."

I'm going to hit myself in the face if I hear that one more time before I graduate... my god!

Help!? Dads?! How can I convince him?! There's gonna be a girl there that I want to see!

Thanks guys!

 

[manhunter]

Don't know when to say no, and no self control over what? Drugs, alcohol, sex? Have you been in trouble for abuse or mis-use of any of these, and how old are you? Not trying to interrogate, but just trying to see things as a dad and rationalize your dad's decision.

 

[JeremyH]

Dont fret....there are bigger problems in life to worry about. There will be plenty of chicks to nail in college....

 

[Uneek]

I'm not sure if you're in high school or college. You don't have to tell me. Just going to put things in perspective of a parent.

How are you doing in school? Grades at a level that's satisfactory to your parents, test scores are good, admission to (attending) a university they'll be happy about, etc. How are things at home? You help out with chores, keep things clean, everything else around the house is organized, etc. How are your friends? Are they a positive influence on you, the serious type, potential trouble makers, they come around to your house blasting music, etc.

I do agree that socializing and having friends is important, but parents want their kids to do the most important things now that will ensure they'll have a successful future.

I know this is not what you want to hear, when you get older, you'll thank them for their guidance. I wish my parents pushed me a lot harder when I was young. I see my uncle and aunt do it to my little cousins and I'm going to do the same for my children. (There's also a rotten apple or two in the bunch who's parents give them free reign, quite frankly, it's sad, disgusting that we're some how related. :toilet I dropped out of Saturday school not studying a foriegn language when I was little. Where I am, foriegn language is required for high school graudation and a few extra years for university admissions. Had I stayed in Saturday school, it would've been a walk in the park for foriegn language class and I could've spent time studying for another class or hanging out with friends instead, and now take on expatriate job positions. I'm far from a nerd, maybe just above average, mostly B+'s to an A-'s for many classes. I flunked a couple courses in college too.

You can reason with them, but if your folks are paying for your car, your expenses and you're living under their roof, you're going to have to play by their rules.

BTW, maybe he's punishing you for breaking his mirror. My apologies, if I'm mistakening you for another member.

 

[Mason Fresh]

Hahah thanks for the input guys!

I'm a junior in high school.

I am a good kid - solid 3.5 GPA at a private school, I write for newspaper, I swim, etc. All my friends know my parents, and my parents know all my friends. I don't do drugs, and I don't party too often, unless it's with my friends that they know. They know I'm responsible - and that's why they are letting me go to Spain for a whole semester at the end of this month... he just says no to say no I think... he doesn't have any other legitimate reasons...

I don't know, whatever, there is more important things in life to worry about, and he did give me his old 4Runner, even though if I want it to really be mine I have to pay it off, which I'm working on.

But yeah, he ended up letting my brother and I go last night... but that was a very rare occasion in which he changed his mind.

 

[MikesToy]

Are you "Daddy's boy"?

 

[Mason Fresh]

hahhahahaahahahaahhaha.

furthest thing from it, mike.

 

[Gromulus]

Life Cycle

I'm not sure if you're in high school or college. You don't have to tell me. Just going to put things in perspective of a parent.

How are you doing in school? Grades at a level that's satisfactory to your parents, test scores are good, admission to (attending) a university they'll be happy about, etc. How are things at home? You help out with chores, keep things clean, everything else around the house is organized, etc. How are your friends? Are they a positive influence on you, the serious type, potential trouble makers, they come around to your house blasting music, etc.

I do agree that socializing and having friends is important, but parents want their kids to do the most important things now that will ensure they'll have a successful future.

I know this is not what you want to hear, when you get older, you'll thank them for their guidance. I wish my parents pushed me a lot harder when I was young. I see my uncle and aunt do it to my little cousins and I'm going to do the same for my children. (There's also a rotten apple or two in the bunch who's parents give them free reign, quite frankly, it's sad, disgusting that we're some how related. :toilet I dropped out of Saturday school not studying a foriegn language when I was little. Where I am, foriegn language is required for high school graudation and a few extra years for university admissions. Had I stayed in Saturday school, it would've been a walk in the park for foriegn language class and I could've spent time studying for another class or hanging out with friends instead, and now take on expatriate job positions. I'm far from a nerd, maybe just above average, mostly B+'s to an A-'s for many classes. I flunked a couple courses in college too.

You can reason with them, but if your folks are paying for your car, your expenses and you're living under their roof, you're going to have to play by their rules.

BTW, maybe he's punishing you for breaking his mirror. My apologies, if I'm mistakening you for another member.

Spoken like a true (and evidently responsible) parent!

 

[MikesToy]

The only rules i had when i was a teenager was: "Don't do the crime if you cannot afford the time". But when i was a kiddo, i had all kinds of rules.