As I recall I used the 75-90 in both diffs also.
You may want to spray down the front diff fill and drain plug with some PB Blaster. These were really difficult to remove when I did them. I actually had to buy a new drain plug because I striped it.
I agree with you. It's a really good idea to change all the fluids out if you don't have any records. But I would do EVERYTHING!!! All the fluids, oil, grease all the zerk fittings, even check plugs, wires, air filter, MAF sensor, the whole lot. Get it done and make a record. Toyota owners are blessed with a solid vehicle. We just need to do all the necessary maintenance. You will have peace of mind knowing that everything is up to date on your rig.
Old one...
New and old...
Here is a great maintenance link.
4Runners.org - Maintain it. Mod it.
Take a few days and get to know your ride. It'll be well worth it.