Here's a copy/paste from my site:
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Spacer Technology
Cornfed Suspension: 3" spacer lift front / 2" spacer lift rear
Revtek Suspension: 3" spacer lift front / 2" spacer lift rear
Daystar Suspension: 2.5" spacer lift front / 2.5" spacer lift rear
Tuff Country: 3" lift front spacer only
Coil Technology
OME Suspension:
Medium Duty Coils (front/rear) 884/895
Heavy Duty Coils (front/rear) 885/896
Extra Heavy Duty Coils (front/rear) 886/897
Shocks:
Front - N140S
Rear - N141(Soft), N142(Firm)
Example lift measurement:
OME Mediums 884 front / 895 rear / N140S frontshock / N142 rr shock = 3" lift front / 2.75" rear
Downey Offroad: 2.5" lift rear shock and coil
Deaver Springs: 2" lift rear coil only
Coilover Technology
Donahoe Racing: 3.5" lift front coilover
Sway A Way: 3" lift front coilover
Downey Offroad: 3" lift front coilover
Long Travel Technology
Total Chaos Fabrications: Long Travel Suspension
Camburg: Long Travel Suspension
Upper Control Arm
Total Chaos Fabrications
Camburg
Other things to note:
3.5" lift no problems with the cv's. Don't waste your time adding a diff drop as you won't need it. Get like 4.5+" of lift and then you'll start to see some severe CV issues. At that point cv's will be need to be delt with but damn I wouldn't want to go there at all. Limitation on the front suspension/geometry along with no downward travel left with that much lift.
Panhard bar is not needed with 3.5" of lift. If you need more, you've got issues with the front so you're definitely in the custom at this point.
If you need more lift than 3.5", look into body lifts. I know it's not highly recommended but if you want larger tires, you're gonna have to go this route. 1.5" max due to hardware limitations. I have 1.5" and have had no problems (knocking on wood).
3.5" lift + 1.5" body lift with lots of trimming = 35" tires MTR.
Problem with 35's is that it's really really SLUGGISH on the road. I can't even get my tach to go over 3000 rpm

Gears in the works but I won't have em ready for production until end of the year... ugh!
reading up on what your wrote, you want to follow a 3rd gen. I think with a simple 3" lift and some aggressive tires, you should be fine with that combo. The ATRAC system will kick in save you in a lot of places so you should be fine. When my 4runner was close to stock, I was able to keep up with the 3rd gens (lift and tires) so I don't think you'll be that far behind.
Have faith in your 4runner and show em a thing or two. Remember it's all driver skill when it comes to getting across obstacles.
Good luck!