The only thing my wife liked about the Pilot was the fold down arm rests. LOL
Dealerships, and most sales folks, have no idea what they're talking about. I hate the fact that I can read over Toyota's website, do a couple of cursory google searches, and know more about the products then they do. But, this isn't exclusive to the car industry. Hi-Fi and firearms, my other hobbies, are even worse.
As for a diesel, I traded my '17 Nissan Titan XD Cummins for my 4Runner. Old school diesels can run forever, new ones maybe IF they are maintained. With current environmental junk; DPF, DEF, regens, EGR, multistage turbos it's really important to have a good techs because things are going to break. The dealership near Dayton Ohio where I purchased my truck had three diesels they regularly worked on... Three... Are you kidding me? Diesel being new to Toyota USA, not going to be good.