Got an email back from Kenwood they of course said "The included remote is the only remote that is garanteed to work with your system". Thanks for your help Kenwood.
I think I'll just order a cheap remote of Ebay and hope for the best.
I bit the bullet and ordered a cheap Kenwood remote off of Ebay for $7, just got it today....works like a charm...and the buttens are SO much more user friendly. If anybody else is in the same boat the remote I bought is model # RC-517