The red Hi-lift is the supposedly the best. It is cast and not stamped. I got one.
Also the 48" is probably better as it will fit into the 4Runner easier and you dont really need the 60" for a stock vehicle. Also get the hi-lift bag, it will allow you to put it in the 4Runner without messing anything up. I normally put mine on the floor behind the front seats, you can also make a mounting point at te rear of the cargo area with the cargo hooks.
Hi-Lifts are used with sliders or steel bumpers normally. Since a stock 4Runner has neither you will only be able to use the Lift-maye and lift it at the wheel. This helps fro recovery, but is completely useless to change a wheel.
I got the hi-lift base and love it. It is not that big, light and works really well as the hi-lift base fits perfectly and it help prevent slipping.
AS to the recovery gear I have no idea. I would recommend you get some basic recovery gear such as decent tow straps adn shackles at least.
You might want to consider getting some sliders if you offroad, as the running boards is normally the first thing that will get abused and if you remove them the rocker panels are pretty exposed. Besides sliders are the ideal hi-lift point.
Some pics of hi-lift with base, hi-lift slider adapters at work on sliders on a 4th gen in soft sand. I popped a bead at Pismo.
Also if you are not familiar with a hi-lift be very careful when you use it. Always keep your hands on the handle when jacking anything up or down, especially down. If you dont the handle can swing pretty fast and give out a very bad blow. Keep you nody and head out of the way of the handle path at all times. Also remember the hi-lift tends to lean towards the vehicle as you lift so put the base as close as possible to vehicle to prevent the top part leaning into your 4Runner, read sheet metal damage. Also keep in mind that a hi-lift can be unstable so try to put a safety under the vehicle at all times, like a spare tire, wood rock , etc. Make sure the 4Runner can't move as the hi-lift might slip. Just safety stuff, a hi-lift is extremely useful but has to treated with respect.