Need help with love life

[sam]

To those guys who have girlfriends or are dating, I need some advice.

How do you let a girl know that you're not interested in her after you've gone out? If she asks you whether you like her or not, do you come out and be honest with her or do you just lie and say things are good between the two of you? I personally feel that its best not to lead anyone on if you're not interested and although it may be hurtful, you just gotta tell the truth and be upfront. What do you guys think? If any of you guys have been in my situation, I would appreciate it if you would share your experience with me and how you handled it or would handle it.

Also, how important are a woman's looks to you?

Thanks!

Sam

 

[sam]

oh come on guys!

help a guy out here.

 

[Thai]

Be honest i guess.

Appearance is important for me...but not the MOST important.

Hope this helps.

 

[sam]

Thai,

Thanks for the advice. Have you ever been in my situation where you went out with someone you didn't really feel a connection with and didn't know how to get out of it without being the bad guy? I guess I'm just feeling bad about the whole thing.

Sam

 

[Thai]

I have been in your situation. It is very hard to be in such a situation.

Good luck in resolving it.

 

[sam]

Thai,

So when you were in this situation, how did you resolve it? Did she ever ask you how you felt? If so, were you upfront with her or just said that you felt things were good? In your situation, did you go out with just once or was it a relationship already? My friends feel that if it was just once, then there is no obligation.


Thanks.

 

[michelle]

Hmm...this is an interesting topic considering that this is a suv/car forum, but I'll do what I can to help since Thai seems a little reluctant to elaborate on his situation. From a female perspective, I think that its definitely better to be honest and do it as early as possible. I don't think that you achieve anything by telling someone you went out with that things went well when you really felt no chemistry. By doing this, you will not only be leading the other person on but also the other person won't leave you alone since they think things went well. So, you are just prolonging the inevitable. Sooner or later, the truth will have to come out. You can't lie forever.

Don't you guys agree?

Michelle

 

[Thai]

Ditto...what she said!:biggrin2: Of course, some things are easier said than done.....