I don't think Toyota spent much time updating the 2014 manual. The stated tow rating is wrong, GCWR is wrong, and they state you need an appropriate sway control if the load is over 2000 lbs. The 2014 4Runner comes with Trailer Sway Control built into the VSC. It's not a bad idea to add mechanical sway control, but the built-in TSC should be adequate for loads over 2000 lbs.
One interesting difference between the 2013 and 2014 manual is the removal of any references to a weight distributing hitch for 2014. 2013 - p301. 2014 - p181.
Are WDH no longer acceptable? Who knows... :dizzy:
Keep in mind that the hitch is rated to 5000 lbs. The 4700 lb rating is power limited, something that can be mitigated by route selection. If you weren't power limited and had a beefy enough hitch, 6500 or greater isn't a problem -considering stability and brakes. (The GX shows us this).
If you chose a WDH, be sure to set it up right. The 2013 Owner's Manual requests 100% FALR (Front Axle Load Restoration). Essentially, the front axle ride height is the same w/o a trailer as it is w/trailer + WDH. SAE J2807 (towing standard) tests at 50% FALR and several OEMs have been trending to 50% FALR. Whatever you decide, take the setup to the scales and make sure your FALR and TW (Tongue Weight) are within the ballpark.
Lastly, regarding tongue weights. Too much and you sag like a mofo and add oversteer to the setup. Bad. Too little the trailer is prone to sway. Very bad.
The 'ideal' tongue weight is one where you minimize TW, while keeping the trailer stable. You can read the nuts and bolts behind the physics
here, but suffice to say, the simple equation is:
m*a*b=I
where,
m = mass of trailer
a = distance from the ball coupler to the trailer's axles
b = trailer's center of gravity to the trailer's axles
I = polar moment of inertia
This equation is why European RV trailers can get away with 4-7% tongue weight. The lower your trailer yaw inertia, the smaller 'b" can be. "b" directly relates to TW. So they put propane tanks, spare tires, water tanks, ect all near the trailer's center of gravity, greatly reducing the polar moment of inertia. In the US, the market uses much larger vehicles to tow, so propane tanks and spare tires are up front, and water tanks are wherever - resulting in the greater TW% requirements (10-15%).
For the tl'dr crowd: Tongue weight required for stability is dependent on the trailer's polar moment of inertia. Which comes out to 10-15% for most trailers.
Emtpy, my 5x8 utility trailer requires 8.4% TW to make m*a*b=I (I used it for CAD practice a while back). Actual TW is 10.7%. Thus is is stable. If you remove the 70lb rear gate, m*a*b=I at 6.8%.
Okay, enough rambling. Messed up my knee yesterday and I've nothing better to do than sit here and talk trailer stability.

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