Thanks for all the awesome feedback, these are some very helpful thoughts (realizing that there is no right or wrong, and as Tyler James said, variety is what makes our trucks unique from one another!).
The majority's preference for silver is in line with my thinking. I think that all-white would look elegant and clean, but not tough or rugged (or as my wife said, it'd look prissy :wow

. Now, I do think that all-white would look awesome on a truck that has been lifted or modified, because the ruggedness would be built in. But I don't expect to do any of that to mine, and I don't want it to look prissy.
I also agree that body colored flares look very good on darker trucks, it definitey makes them look tougher.
As for black flares, I considered that, but I think that painting the flares
and cladding black is too much black - at least it's not the look I'm going for.
So at least for the nearterm, I'm going to do the minimal, and repaint my two replacement flares in OEM silver - I can always go crazy later and repaint them any other color.
Question - unfortunately my flares/cladding have been repainted by the PO - does anyone know if they are supposed to be high gloss, semi gloss, satin, etc?
Also, [MENTION=2929396] Tyler James Inc[/MENTION], I'm curious why you think that black wheels would not look good with white/silver? Have you seen photos of this combo that you could share?