Thanks everyone for the help you've provided while I've been considering a 4runner. However, after getting to the dealer to sign papers I decided last week I wasn't ready to pull the trigger and spend quite that much money on a new vehicle. I know you all will rip me for this, but I've decided in stead on a new Pilot EX-L 4x4. The 4runner (SR5 with 3 rows leather, moon roof) was going to end up about $5k more than the Pilot and the Pilot gave me more in terms of creature comforts that I more realistically need given that this is my everyday commuter. For example, I can actually get automatic climate control! Of course the 4runner can go anywhere but for the amount of off roading that I will do (a few simple dirt trails, farm, etc.) the Pilot will do just fine. The 4runner is a great vehicle I'm sure, but just not for me I've decided. After driving the Pilot I found the ride to be better, the seats more comfortable, more creature comforts, and more room in the 3rd row (soon to have 3 kids). Good luck to everyone, I'll be over on the Pilot forums.