Traded in the 4Runner unwillingly. Felt like I lost a friend...

hrothgar02

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No good deed goes unpunished. The tale of woe started when I foolishly traded in my wife's 2011 Honda Pilot for a 2014 Acura RDX as a surprise for her birthday.

The Pilot was beat to hell for only being 3 years old. It was scraped on both sides (wide SUV in a narrow downtown underground parking lot), all the wheels had curb rash, white paint was spilled in the cargo bay and bumper, mysterious stains everywhere (kids) and it had a ding on the CarFax report due to my wife taking out her building gate with the driver side of the SUV (when the Pilot was only 4 weeks old).

I bring home the RDX. She hates it due to the fact that we now have a $16K note on it (Pilot was paid off) and no third row. She wants to trade it in for something with a third row. She is obsessive over the 3rd row for the next month. THIRD ROW!!! (which we never really used in the past).

I break down and see how much I can get for the 4Runner. It's a 2011 SR5 RWD with 65K miles (some goodies like a 2" lift / aftermarket wheels and tires). Lo and behold $24K trade in value (I think I bought it for $31K drive out). I trade my beloved 4Runner for the 2014 Acura MDX. I agree to drive the RDX (total chick car) for a while.

True I could have traded in the RDX but I would have lost $3-4K on a new car. It was a hard decision but I had suck it up and land on the grenade. When I gave the 4Runner keys over to the dealer, it felt like someone just died. I never been emotionally attached to a vehicle before. It was a faithful friend who never complained and always got the job done. My plan is to drive the RDX for a while (whatever that means) and trade it in on the next generation 4Runner (this time Trail edition). I hope the next gen 4Runner won't be a crossover unibody fake SUV. RDX is nice but it has no soul. It's an appliance with leather interior. I will never surprise my wife ever again with a new vehicle. Ever.

Finally I want to thank everyone on the board for their input and wisdom. I hope to join the discussion sooner than later. Happy trails.
 

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We've all had to make sacrifices for the good of the familial unit/other half. You'll be back. Just give the whole situation time enough to blow over, do the trade for the TE as you've planned, and you'll be happier than ever.
 
My wife wanted a RDX or MDX, it wasnt until I showed her the Limited that she finally agreed with me that the 4runner was the way to go. Its funny how women obsess over a particular feature - for me my wife NEEDED heated seats and the smart key/push button start....:frusty:
 
So basically you got a his and her set of matching cars and ended up having to drive the "hers" version? :hiding:
 
You are the guy that got the "ironman" lift right?

How did you like it? Would you do it again?

Sorry about the chick car though...
 
Yikes. That is rough. My wife has a 14 MDX and its nice but I prefer my truck to her car. The RDX isn't that bad, but just think of it as serving time... you'll get out and get your truck back. Maybe even treat yourself to the new TRD red/orange as a consolation prize!
 
I will never put my kids in a 3rd row seat.

I like the new RDX, but no Super Handling AWD and no Turbo. Had they included those things, it would have been better than the new MDX.
 
Wasn't there already an "I lost my man card today" post this week? LOL

Does the new Acura have a special compartment she can keep your balls in for safe keeping?

Seriously, I feel for ya. I recently got tired of feeding my chevy 6.0L truck and endless supply of gas and sold it. But who gets the new car? The wife - new Accord V6 with all the trimmings. The secret benefit to me was full time use of the 4Runner. But the running boards and forward rake had to go, otherwise, I felt like a soccer mom as well.
 
OP - The MDX is a beautiful car, that was next on my list.
Totally different application but its not a bad car.
Not sure about the RDX.
 
You totally got the shiet end of the stick...

If you're open to a used Trail, you may be able to bridge the negative equity gap.
 
Wasn't there already an "I lost my man card today" post this week? LOL

Does the new Acura have a special compartment she can keep your balls in for safe keeping?

Seriously, I feel for ya. I recently got tired of feeding my chevy 6.0L truck and endless supply of gas and sold it. But who gets the new car? The wife - new Accord V6 with all the trimmings. The secret benefit to me was full time use of the 4Runner. But the running boards and forward rake had to go, otherwise, I felt like a soccer mom as well.

Surprisingly there is a compartment for a pair of balls in front of the shifter. Mine wouldn't fit so I had to put them in the back. I am seriously thinking about the FABULOUS rainbow sticker on the rear bumper (appropriate for the RDX). The only minor consolations are the 6.2 second 0-60 and the 24MPG.

The Ironman 4X4 setup was great. It significantly reduced the nose dive and body roll (20% stiffer than OEM I believe). I had no issues with it in the 25K miles I had it installed. 3 of my OEM struts / shocks leaked. I would not hesitate installing them again; they were a good option vs. just replacing my leaky struts /shocks with OEM. I am really intrigued by the King suspension setup and would most likely spend the money on that set up next time. The Nitto Terra Grapplers wore surprisingly well. I think I could have pushed them another 25K miles (total of 50K). They got louder but not to the point where it became unbearable. I will say that if I had to do all over again, I would have gone with the 285's on the 2" lift. The 265's looks a bit small. Hope to join you guys soon and get my man card back.
 
My wife wanted a RDX or MDX, it wasnt until I showed her the Limited that she finally agreed with me that the 4runner was the way to go. Its funny how women obsess over a particular feature - for me my wife NEEDED heated seats and the smart key/push button start....:frusty:

Mine wanted the sunroof, sliding rear window and large enough console for the holster mod. not much arguing there :)
 

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