to the OP look into the highlander I had one as a loaner when my FJC was in shop
very nice but for sure a car feeling ride
or just get the trd pro and love the thing I dumped my FJC last month for a 4runner
not sure about the kids seats bring them down to the dealer

that is what I did when my kids were in seats they fit fine in the FJ but then there legs grew

ahahahahahha and they they wanted windows and there own doors
one thing I loved my FJC love love loved it
the TE with its KDSS is amazing on the road handles IMHO way better than the regular models and since a majority of our driving is to the off road spots then going camping and not rock crawling the KDSS wins out
even when loaded the thing still can corner flat which is really nice
but that is me in love with the KDSS I say test drive both and corner both a bit hard and see what you think then get the one you love
I like the 4runner over the highlander I had on loan because of sitting a bit above most traffic
also I wanted a capable off road vehicle
