Dude, have you even looked at the gear ratios?? An auto in OD will be at a LOWER rpm than a 5sp, at say, 65mph. Just because a car has more gears doesn't mean they took the original tranny and slapped on another gear.
And I almost laughed at you comparing your aunts car to yours. Are you serious? Even with the same driver and same road conditions, there are many factors that go into calculating mpg, now you're throwing a whole new terrain with a different driver? Yeah, right. And get back to me when your 10,000+ mile mpg averages at 23mpg. I got 23-24 mpg one way, but doesn't mean Jack. Average is where it counts. I don't know of a single person with a 3.4l averaging over 21mpg. Stick or auto.