the negative CV angle on this generation is not what causes the vibration, and do not pay anyone other than a dealership to "fix" the issue because it will return. lube it up as much as you can, as i mentioned in my email.
also regarding the lift, 2" in the front would be too much and the front would look obviously higher than the rear. .5 - 1" more in the front than in the rear is perfect in order to level it out. I am running 4" in the front and 2.5" in the rear, and even that 1.5" greater height in the front makes it look funnily angled toward the sky.
it is NOT true that the XREAS has to go. there is NO reason for the XREAS to be removed, as it has nothing to do with the vibration you are experiencing. if a shop wants to remove the XREAS, i would question their reasoning unendingly. if XREAS is in the way of some work they need to do, then they can disconnect it if they do so properly, but there is NO, i repeat NO reason that they would need to permanently remove the XREAS system. XREAS is an expensive system, and you would be losing a LOT more money if you let them remove it instead of just living with the vibration problem (which i maintain has nothing to do with XREAS).
i don't understand why any Toyota dealership would say there is a "problem with the front driveshafts and that they were angled severly upward to the wheels" -- that is something Toyota implemented specifically for the new generation 4Runner when they decreased the ground clearance. it concerns me that a dealership would diagnose that as a "problem" since it was a conscious design decision on Toyota's part which has only taken stress off of some of the suspension components.
again, that was a PURPOSEFUL design, not a "problem" -- they did it on purpose, and for any Toyota dealership to act as though it was an accidental design flaw is ridiculous. the negative angle of the CVs and other suspension/driveline components is something that was incorporated into the design of ALL 4th gen. 4Runners, not just the v8 limited and v8 sport. the sport is a 4wheel drive vehicle, not all wheel drive.
it makes me angry that some dealership didn't understand the purpose behind this design. it is not the cause of the vibration.
please be careful about who you let work on your truck - no one here on the forums found a fix to the vibration through removal of XREAS -- and if you read the thread below, it sounds as though the largest success has come from lubing the joints.
http://www.toyota-4runner.org/showthread.php?s=&threadid=975
most Toyotas have the vibration/clunking problem, and one very knowledeable member here (Good Times) even continues to have a clunk despite the fact that he has non-stock components.