Maybe I'm just misinterpreting what you are saying, but isn't it the opposite? For more advanced cars where the center differential is basically a limited slip, it limits the amount of slippage, and in really advanced cars with variable slip that's controlled by the car's computer, it works to shift power to what ever set of wheels that has traction. The the 4runner has an old fashioned center differential that basically an open differential in AWD so if both back tires start to slip, all the power is going to go to the rear and none to the front. With the center differential in 4wd, the front and back need to spin at the same rate, so even if both back lose traction, as long as the fronts have traction, you will still move since power is going to them. I think in normal snow driving, its best to drive in AWD since when going around corners, the open center differential allows the front and rear to move at different speeds, which is good since they go through turns at different radius and it allows the tires to not need to break traction. In 4wd, when going around corners, one of 4 tires is going to have to loose traction by either going faster or slower than the surface it is on since front and back sets of tires need to go at different speeds and one tire is going to have to compensate for that difference. That means you will have only 3/4 the traction as normal. That is also why you don't want to drive in 4wd on dry pavement since you basically will be dragging one tire on every corner.
I have a bmw m3 with a limited slip rear differential and in the snow, with snow tires its crazy good climbing snow covered hills if I'm going in a straight line, but once you go around any slight corner, the limited slip differential turns into a locked rear differential since the traction from the snow isn't enough to allow the tires to move at different rates so it basically drags one tire and you end up just with one tire with traction and it really struggles and the back end has a tendency to slides around. Not exactly the same, but similar concept