This thread doesn't surprise me in the least. I had billies put on (5100) on my former 97 Grand Cherokee and it rode very stiff. Everybody on the jeep forum sang the bilsteins praises. So I went with them. I loved it for about a week until I thought the ride became teeth shattering. After being babied all its life and it continually being an a**hole to me, I had finally had it and traded it. Never again. (Jeep and/or bilsteins)
I have XREAS and had the shocks replaced a few years ago. I love the pillowy ride and "somewhat" stiff cornering they provide, but I'm also aware that these stock WILL die again. After replacing the shocks, most know (or should) that the system must be completely replaced when a second set of XREAS shocks are needed. Screw that.
The only viable alternative, after reading many threads, is just getting KYB shocks for it. I haven't heard anything negative about them, so until I see otherwise, I'll got route when my shock goes (or shocks b/c when 1 goes, the opposite across from it must be replaced as well. Can't have 2 XREAS shocks and the other traditional, so all must be ripped out).
Stupid design. All factory air/hydraulic suspensions are garbage in terms of durability. All of them (doesn't matter what car maker).