I am not certain, but if the relay is disabled I don't think the a/c button will engage the clutch. This may well disable the a/c altogether.
The simplest method is to unplug the wires that are switched by the "defog" or "defog/ feet" position of the control. On my 2000 with the basic heat this is the pair of blue wires described by Charlie and myself.
this is most likely the route I will take. then I can use the ac button when needed for "extra" defrost...and exercise the compressor occasionally, like exercise the 4wd like we are supposed to in off seasons.
if it helps with mpg...that's good...this time of year I go from 18mpg to 11 or 12...in part because I have to let it warm up for a while outside even though I have block, pan and tranny heaters and im in 4wd all the time