From what I've read on this subject 100 degrees is WAY low. Low temps are almost as bad as high temps for the tranny.
And a 60 degree swing from cruising to stopped?
Yeah, not at all what mine does. I just watched the trans temps the other day during my commute. Once up to temp it sat at 185 and barely moved from there whether I was cruising along at 55mph or stopped at a light. I let it idle for a few minutes when I got to work sitting in the parking lot. Fan came on of course, but the temp stayed where it was. I'm in PA, and the outside air temp was in the 20s.
AFAIK that's pretty normal and considered a good operating temp. Heck, my temps started out at 40ish right as I started driving, and passed 100 within a few minutes.