Sounds like you'll need to tap into the circuit that powers up the lights when you hit unlock, put a one-way diode inline so that you don't back-feed that circuit, then feed it to a relay for your new rock lights.
Add a switch that also feeds the same relay and done.
Just got the rigid rock light kit and I'd like to wire them so that they are switched with illumination and dimmer as well as they come on when you first unlock the car and the puddle lights and forward dome lights come on.
Tapping the dome light would probably be the easier way to go. I was just thinking about this last night. The puddle lights on the mirror maybe hard to access being in the door.
Jetranger: Sounds like you have the perfect setup for the lights. Any idea if the FJ40 is negatively switched like the T4R? What kind of switch did you use?
I found the AMP research running board install guide. It has lights that come on with the lock/unlock on the fob. Check page 7 it outlines the wires to tie into although those are only the trigger wires you have would have to find out where the other wire gets tied. I haven't done this install myself but someone who has done it in a 2014+ can you please chime in on the wire colours for us?I've got an AOB switch already, I was really looking for which circuit that is in the interest of saving time searching. you wouldn't happen to know which wire I can tap into within the cab?
OP:Which fuse block setup are you going with and what was your reason for going that route?