[MENTION=147450]Throwback[/MENTION] , sounds like your use is very similar to what my family and I use our 4runner for. I have attempted to be as modest with my vehicle additions as possible. Most of the more expensive ones have been on "deals" that I have found that I would be kicking myself later if I didn't take advantage of. There are some very informative responses, so I'm not going to really add anything new, but here are the ones that if I was starting over I would do...
1) Tires: I rode the dunlops for almost 30K before upgrading to Cooper AT3 in size 275 load range C. I researched and read reviews for over a year, finally deciding on this size and load rating for my needs. With almost 20K on the Coopers I can say that they were the right decision for me and would order them again in a heartbeat. I am not disappointed in going up a size as aired down they give roughly the same clearance as the stock 265's, which leads me too..
2)Recovery Gear and Air compressor: I have found that on gravel roads just airing down the LT rated tires to between 25-30 psi really helps the stock suspension and makes traveling on washboards/unimproved roads for long stretches very bearable.
3) Sliders: This is the one piece of armor that has really saved some body damage. When I purchased my 4runner it came with the "Rigid" running boards, which were functional as a step and didn't look too bad, but they really are damage multipliers if they get hung up. I actually used to take them off every time I knew I was off roading on more than fire trails.
4) Full skids: I probably wouldn't have full skids right now if I didn't get such a ridiculously good deal on them. I bought them as part of a package deal with the sliders from an owner who ordered the whole set but never installed and was trying to off-load them before moving. One of the few times I will say that I was lucky to be in South Florida because there wasn't the market for these like everywhere else. The aluminum has held up really well for my intended uses and they have saved my transfer case from a bad line. I also appreciate the weight savings over steel.
Mods that I wouldn't mind having if they come at the right time....
5) Winch/Slimline Bumper: I would love to have one, but as you and [MENTION=118321]Jetboy[/MENTION] were discussing, I'm not ready to go down the rabbit hole of the extra weight up front and tinkering with the suspension upgrade necessary to do it right. Maybe I'll get "lucky" and wear out the stock suspension sooner rather than later and be "forced" to upgrade. Until then my maxtrax and recovery rope will have to do.
6) Suspension Upgrade: Small lift, likely Dobinsons (1.75" - 2" Front, 1.25 - 1.5" Rear) with slightly higher spring rates. Just for a little better clearance and to have an excuse to go down the winch/slimline bumper rabbit hole mentioned above.
7) Fridge: Just because its awesome, I know I'd love it, and its hot down here. Also not looking to go down the power supply rabbit hole yet.
Currently all of my mod $ I am saving up for a trailer. This I feel is going to be way more useful to me and my family on all of our long excursions (It takes f-ing 5 - 7 hours to get out of this swamp and to another state) then the other mods I haven't done yet. We love our RTT but I'd love to get it off of the roof and on to something we can basecamp from, as well as having the extra capacity for all of the crap that camping and exploring with kids entails.
As said numerous times, these vehicles are more capable stock than people sometimes want to admit. They will get most people 99.9% of the places they would want to go, and I know I'm one who wouldn't want to risk my vehicle going on a trail for that 0.1% anyway....maybe in another 5-10 years when there is a possibility its not the daily driver any more.
:cheers: