Ok I have searched, every thread seems to turn into flame war and personal attacks. I am not looking to drag race, just looking for an additional 20HP or so, a little more pep for towing, passing, and a little better MPG. If this cannot be achieved I am fine with that and better money spent elsewhere. I was just making sure $650 for intake and Cat Back would not be a waste.
Thanks
For CAI, I had made the mistake in ordering from K&N. Save yourself a few bucks, and get the drop in K&N filter, as the "Cold" Air intake will be gaining more, but warmer air. Now, if you went TRD or aFe, you'd have the fully enclosed filter.
For towing, however, you'll be wanting more torque than power. A nice exhaust will do that. Honestly, though, you could do that with some nice headers with high-flow, if any, cats.
The Tacoma guys seem to like shorty headers for low rpm gains.
Performance-wise, long-tubes typically do better. (This, however will take away some ground clearance, and increase under hood temperature.)
A better muffler can allow for better-flowing exhaust gases, as well as a mean sound when you get on the gas. I personally would say go with magnaflow, although I'd have to leave that choice to you. And, to increase this a bit (you probably won't even notice it, though), a lot of people on the forum do the resonator delete, which will help with the horrendous smell with the back window down, if the exhaust is either a. dumped, or b. routed out the side.
(And if you want, there are a few people who have actually gotten the TRD supercharger working with the 4.0 v6. Just a heads up

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