You can't change the laws of physics; freer flow than OEM means bigger holes, putting more air into the combustion chamber, increasing the bang you get from the air/fuel mix, but at a cost... you will get more particulates in to the combustion chamber, too, because of the bigger holes.
K&N makes filters for racing, not for daily drivers. People who go racing do not care about multi-year longevity, they care about performance. They build cars to cross the finish line, not get 300k miles. In a dragster, it only has to go a 1/4, in the Daytona 500 it only has to go 500 miles, in the Baja 1000... you get the point. When the race is over, the engine gets a complete rebuild so it doesn't matter how much the K&N filters out because it's all getting redone anyway.
TRD filters do the same thing btw, for the same reasons. I'll be sticking with the stock filters because I don't really care about beating some guy in a race. I want my 4Runner to get 300k miles.