I figured it out finally!
It was my transfer case skid plate hitting the lowest point on the transfer case...
Apparently the Shrockworks Skids are so tight and close that when the transmission and transfer case twist and move and the frame and such moves a little that they were making contact and rubbing. I pulled my skids last night to change those diff mount stoppers, some fluids, and the transfer case seal and decided to drive it before doing anything but removing the skids and the noise was GONE!
Such a stupid cause for such an annoying noise. I think the noise may have been getting worse as the transmission mount aged and allowed more movement so I ordered a new one today that should be here tuesday and I will replace then. I'll probably throw a washer or two above the transfer case skid to space it down just a bit and give enough clearance.
You could see where the bottom of the transfer case was hitting the skid and wore the powder coat off.
I wish I would have figured this out months ago when I started noticing the noise and researching/replacing parts... At least it's a simple fix.
Also, [MENTION=116877]fourfive[/MENTION] , those bottom diff mount stoppers are only a molded washer, no rubber. I ordered them through my Toyota dealer and will be returning them because I don't want to replace a $12 washer for no reason. Just thought you may want to know.