For someone like you, I would test drive the 3.6 model. OR check out the new Acura RDX...less sophisticated AWD, decent ground clearance, plenty of power, and fuel economy splits the difference b/w the Subaru 3.6 and 2.5 CVT.
For me, I am able to hit at least 29 mpg on the highway. And I drive a lot on the highway daily.
Was going to post that I did just test drive the 3.6 and found it A LOT more amenable.
Told the sales manager that if the Forester was available in a 2.5 Turbo coupled with a six speed manual... THIS would be my next choice to drive. Unfortunately it does not.
I've always liked Subarus. Bought two for the ex-wife.
Will look at the Acura RDX.
Like I said, don't really want to leave the V8. Maybe the process is telling me to just enjoy the vehicle and pony up for the added fuel.
It's either the latter or paying for a new car!