From what I learned in Tech School and working for several Dealers, autos work best just being left alone, the 4Runner idles the same in park or neutral, hence why you can actual start in either gear, I don't know the actual way the trans works but when you slow down and your at a light the trans has probably unlocked the torque converter, so you might just be wearingout the shifter cable and links, I would avoid trying to over tax the trans but an occassional shift from drive to neutral won't hurt but for safety reason I like the truck in gear, takes no effort to drop the pedal to the floor and move out of the way.
Lets also remember that the life of the trans is vital to how the fluid is so if you change as recommended or within good mileage intervals the trans should last as long as the truck
Mark86
putting the truck in neutral does nothin for the brakes, breaks wear from the wheels turning not from sitting, sitting for a long time with the brake depressed does over tax the fluid, all that force to compress the pistons so the caliper can hold the wheel, that fluid is getting pretty hot.
TRD04RUNNER
neutral drops are for rentals and loaner cars

but I accidentally did a neutral drop on my 4Runner:awais: got on the highway after getting gas and at 40 I dropped my Gaterade and went to grab it the truck shifted into neutral, rpms flew from 3 to 6 and I knocked it back to drive not even realizing and the truck just forced me back into the seat and felt like a plane about to take off :awais: I would not recommend doing that as I was trying to save my interior from the orange fluid but the truck was solid and took it like it was normal, I've done that in some other cars and holy**** you would have thought the trans just blew out the underneath of the car
