My wife of 32 years is retiring next February. She has been a nurse for 38 years taking care of our veterans. During that time she took a leave of absence and was a Captain in the Air Force as a flight nurse during Desert Shield and Storm.
We have been doing the whole "figuring out retirement" thing for the past six months and it's pretty unnerving.
From what I have learned over the past six months, all of you posting in this thread are right... and wrong haha. The truth is there is no one size fits all or only one right way to save for retirement. We basically just started 30 some years ago (when we were dumb kids) putting money in our 401K's and not worrying about it. My wife will now retire and draw the same monthly amount of money for the next 30+ years as she does right now. And yes, that includes estimates COL and inflation. We had no planners. We had no parental help. We just put money in our 401K and in 1984 we didn't even think that Social Security would still even be a program in 2017.
So, the secret?
Put money away. Savings, 401K's, mutual funds, whatever. Just save it somewhere. How much? As much as you can and still live the standard you want to live. Some won't save any. Some will save too much and go through life as a miser. Newsflash: There is only one life and it can end at any time. Ask me about that as in November of last year I almost died from a sudden illness. I am very healthy, exercise a ton and have no really bad habits and... was fine one day (rode 10 miles of trails) and lying in the hospital the next day in incredible pain and looking death in the face. It happens. Enjoy life as you live it because tomorrow is never a certainty.
Next, there is nothing wrong with having a mortgage or some credit card debt. Just don't let it get out of hand. We have had them our whole lives. So what.
Now, about kids. They are expensive. We have raised two. When I was young and dumb I felt the same way as some of you. No kids! Expensive, problematic, have to feed and clothe them, etc, and they might hate you anyway. Well, let me tell you a story:
For 99.9999% of us there is absolutely nothing you will ever do in your entire life that will be more important or rewarding than having children. Unless you derive a cure for cancer, figure out how to counteract gravity or come up with cold fusion then having children is the best you will do. Sure, I have not done any of the things I mentioned in the last sentence.... but my children might do them someday. Most importantly, your children will allow a piece of you to live forever. How? Everything they learn from you, both good and bad, is learned and carried on to the next generation, and the next, and the next. Stop for a minute - where do you think you got the basic thoughts, feelings, genetics, mannerisms and everything else you use every day from? They came from your parents, and grandparents, and great grandparents. For those of you who had shitty parents or were adopted like me they still came from your parents or from the parents of someone else! My point is this: If you take this parenting thing seriously then you can actually make the world a better place eventually and *bonus* bits and pieces of your ideals and many other things will live on!
To close, regardless of how much or how little you save in your working years you will eventually, if you are lucky, make it to retirement age. What you do now will shape those years. I advise everyone to enjoy life though. It's a very short time that we get to be here. Balance and don't sweat the small things, especially politics!