locking lug nuts
I use a set of locks with the base and spline style......no chance of stripping like the ''face'' style IMO.
That's good advice. I'll look for those. I think it's possible for people to steal the rims and tires. Given the cost of these and the tires, it's possible for some low life thief to make up to 1/2 of MSRP for a stolen set. My ICON alloy rims and AT tires could net 1/2 of $2000 and I don't want to have to replace them. I sold my OEM rims and tires for $500 to a Tacoma owner.
Anti-seize is part grease and part aluminum. There's also a Zinc version. I believe the metal material is there to prevent electrolysis and rust, as much as it is a lubricant. It works generally pretty well on typical bolts. I use it on the skid plate bolts which I have to remove occasionally to work on the car. I put it on everything with threads when I did the suspension lift but I haven't tried using it on lug nuts yet.
I often put a little bit of heavy oil, 70 to 90 weight, on the lug nuts. I do the same thing on the back seat bolts because some of the ends of the bolts are exposed under the truck and because I take them out every time I go camping.
The lug nut torque, 85 ft lbs, comes from the resistance of the tire against the wheel hub surface and the force of pressure desired there. Turning a threaded bolt tight generates force against the rim and the rim against the wheel hub surface. I don't think oil affects that force. It only helps when you try to remove them, when you want it to be easy and free of rust.
I believe I have conical lug nuts and lug nut seats on the ICON rims. The OEM rims and lug nuts were flat. The two styles are not compatible. Don't try to put flat lug nuts on conical holes, or vice versa. From the photos I thought that's what the OP might have done.
I assume the rim is hub centric or else the rim would spin out of round. I'm not sure what hub-centric means if not that?