Correct me if I'm wrong here but you're saying that you are running spacers and the studs had sheared clean off. Through discussions with multiple Toyota dealers, the verdict was that the torque on the studs was incorrect.
Now with a spacer, the spacer is secured onto the hub using the factory hub studs and tightened down and you mount the wheel to the aftermarket spacer studs. You said the spacers stayed on.
So this is telling me that the spacer failed and nothing with any of the factory Toyota parts.
This is why I have a hard time installing spacers on my truck. From what I've seen and read, it always steers me away from ever installing them. I've been in the industry fro quite a while and yes I agree, although it may not be the right or best way, techs will always use a gun to throw on the lugs. You hardly hear about(not that it can't or doesn't happen) wheels coming off of factory hubs that have been tightened down this way.. You hear far too often of this happening with aftermarket spacers. They must've used an impact for a semi on yours.
(multiple engineers from Toyota and insurance companies confirmed that while the spacers place added leverage force on the factory lug nuts, the factory lug nuts would have failed either way due to improper torque applied, the factory lugnuts were seriously under-torqued).
Just a couple of days before the accident I had a local offroad shop in Mesa, AZ, put on new wheels and tire, work on clearance issues, firewall tubing, welding sliders, bodylift, etc. The night I picked up my car they were bolting the wheels on in the parking lot with a hand drill and rushing to finish up.
I don't see a spacer on the hub in the 1st post photo,
Hey that's me!
Toyota dealer didn't do shit. The wheel had been on the tire for around 1k miles, so they said it was too long for them to have any responsibility. No one touches my truck, so thankfully insurance did it's job. Unfortunately the shop in the small town it happened in was a piece of shit.
Wasn't worth trying to small claims, as that level of milage was a coin flip on if the judge would care.
Needless to say I check the lugs frequently. Still a bit nervous getting behind the wheel, and I feel phantoms in the wheel all the time (like a wheel is getting loose, but it never is).
Really glad OP is okay!
This may or may not be related to your case but recently there been police reports of idiots untightening some one else's lug nuts as a prank. Mostly school kids crap but potentially deadly.