Oh, I understand. I'm an automotive engineer, I do it for a living too. I have audited many different manufacturing sites, from making tiny capacitors, up to automotive sub-assemblies, and I have done tons of FA for both manufacturing defects, and oodles of field returns. Actually I am writing during in some down time during a spec review with one of the asian OEM's...
When you have a part that is designed to have a life of 90k, the design, material selection, and process specs are written to achieve a 90k life with a certain safety factor. Most of the time, the actual life span is the max that can be achieved at a certain price point, so it could be adjusted up or down pretty straightforwardly by either cheaping out, or investing in better materials/process. For non-wear items, the failure life is typically in the range of 2-3x the operating life spec'd out (because nothing lives forever). For wear items it has to be different, you can't maintain a 2-3x failure life on an item that is expected to wear out. That doesn't mean they are guaranteed to fail after their lifetime, I mean some little old ladies have gotten 100k+ miles out of their brake pads by never braking hard, despite the pad life only being something like 30k or less. You'll always have some cases that don't see harsh conditions and last forever, and you'll always have some individuals that just seem to last forever, even in harsh conditions. The dimensions all line up in their respective tolerance stacks to make those parts just perfect. Then you have others that don't have anything out of spec, but fail early, because statistics... or because the tolerance stack wasn't perfect (they're harder than you think...).
Even with perfect manufacturing, you will have significant variation in lifespan of things like this because you have imperfect life conditions and imperfect materials. Anecdotal variance between 90k and 200k doesn't surprise me at all. For that matter, I don't recall any that broke right near 90k either. Most don't know how many miles, but the few that did I seem to remember them breaking in the 100k's.
It would be interesting if someone sifted through all the threads and made a list of all the failure mileages.