The Highlander is a perfect vehicle for those who do not go off road.
You know why. Some people want to project an image of themselves as rugged and outdoorsy.
There is a point that fails to get raised every time someone says that if you don’t go off-road and you like Toyotas, you should get a Highlander. And, if you buy a 4Runner and you don’t go off-road, you’re a poseur. Sorry, but I don’t see it that way. The Highlander, which is based on a Camry platform, cannot be compared to a 4Runner for several reasons that do not have anything to do with going off-road. Without getting into all of the specifics and pointing out all of the obvious differences, you cannot compare the two in terms of towing (regardless of tow rating), driving in the snow, dealing with pothole ridden roads, hauling heavy gear, equipment, etc., and driving dynamics. In addition, I put my wife and kids in a 4Runner because, barring a freak, major mechanical failure, it has the capability to bring them home in anything the Northeast can throw at it.
In my over 20 years of driving, I have never owned a front-wheel drive or front-wheel drive based AWD vehicle, and I will try to keep it that way for as long as I can. The ride and handling of the Highlander, which is a great vehicle for its intended purpose, makes me borderline nauseous. The only other non-Toyota, non-Xterra Japanese SUV left, which is really a CUV, that is both based on an RWD platform and relatively close in size, is the Infiniti FX. It’s a great vehicle, but it’s built for a very different purpose. Otherwise, you're going much bigger or you're buying a European vehicle for a lot more money with way less expected reliability. So, if you’re like me and you prefer RWD-based 4WD vehicles with solidity, value, safety, reliability, utility, and a pure driving experience, there’s a good chance you will buy a 4Runner and end up on this great forum with the rest of us.