Whether I proved your point or not, you're still incorrect. Wheel spin as a speed could be decreased due to the speed reduction, but you have multiplied the available power by 2.73:1 thus increasing the likelyhood of wheel spin. Your actions are multipled by that same figure. So going by your logic, 4low should actually decrease the available "traction" because there is too much power.
Weight shouldn't really matter, as the 4Runners have near perfect 50/50 weight distribution. The only weight shift that would matter is based on grades, and if the direction of the vehicle allows for a benefit of that weight shift or not.
So really, the use of 4low in your case is simply a difference in driving habits and control - not an actual gain of traction, which would violate the laws of physics.
I agree with this. Available traction is a function of the tire contact with the earth and not the drivetrain. The primary benefit to 4-lo is 'control' and getting into the engine power band low down. The second benefit to modern vehicles with the whiz bang electro gizmos are features such as A-trac to prevent slippage which increases the friction / traction / power distribution at the expense of momentum.