Thanks! How would you say the Pentastar in the Wrangler compares to the 4.0L in the 4Runner? I figure that would be an approximate feeling in the Gladiator, since I tow with the 4Runner now. The only time I have complaint with the 4Runner is on the stretch of 84 East in NY up the 'mountain'. There it was straight up struggling but every place else I drive as long as I look ahead and maintain momentum never felt like I was white knuckling it. I think also the 4Runner brakes are confidence inspiring relative to my other car. Otherwise even though I tow 12x a year that's still only 1% of actual drive time.
It does however sound like the Pentastar in a RAM would be lacking and HEMI way to go there.
A couple thimgs to note: my Jeep is the 2 door, so it's a bit lighter than what the Gladiator or 4Runner is. Plus it has 3.73 gearing in the axles. Also, I have always lived in "flat" areas. Grew up in KS, lived 11 years in Indiana, and now on the gulf side of Texas. So my mountain driving experience is limited to say the least.
That said, the 3.6 feels smoother, maybe a bit more refined, but seems to require more RPMs to make the power. Granted, the 4.0 does too, but feels like it comes on lower in the RPM range. One thing I don't like about the 3.6, the oil filter retains no fluid (it's mounted at the top/front of the engine). It makes oil changes easy and much less messy, but if the Jeep sits for a few days, the valve train is noisy on start up until oil gets there to quiet everything down. I've only had this one 18 months, and so far so good, but it is one thing that's in the back of my mind about it long term.
I think in a similar size/equipped vehicle (4R, JKU, Gladiator), overall they will be comparable in performance - but I feel the 3.6 would have to work harder under load.
In a full size Ram, I would definitely go Hemi all the way. If nothing else, it will be easier to sell when that time comes and will retain value better.
Considering the investment, I definitely suggest you drive as many as you can and see for yourself before laying down the cash. You might like them all, you might hate them all! lol But as you mentioned, the Tundra is always there too and I know a lot of people who are happy with theirs. The only gripe I hear is the Toyota 5.7 tends to be a bit thirstier than the Ram/GM offerings.