Why would you event worry about changing your ATF on a 2016 with 8k miles? It's got World Standard from the factory and has no service interval last I checked. The only time we replaced WS fluid at Lexus was if the transmission was acting up. I've seen cars with over 200k miles and no issues and never had the fluid replaced. If you're really worried about it just use Toyota WS ATF since you'll probably never replace it again.
I believe I fully covered those questions/points fully above (and agreed its largely overkill).
Edit: Also, since you're in SD, which "Independent Toyota Shop"?
I took my truck to TLS.
While the dealer staff may not know more about engineering than you do, all they have to do is pour the right fluid that the engineer that knows far more than you do tells them to. Every fluid change does not require a re-engineering effort to accomplish.
What part of the situation are you missing that many Toyota dealers may not even being using fluids exactly per Toyota spec.? This has been discussed in multiple threads on maintenance and fluids.