Really just a mall cruiser. She's more interested in stuff you would find on a luxury SUV like an XC90, like blind spot monitoring, big nav screen, A/C seats. But I think I've convinced her on the 4runner for more practical reasons.
As everyone else already said, it sounds like a 4R isn't for her. Recommend her an RX, GX, XC90 (or XC60 if the 90 is too expensive), or maybe even a Highlander. Even the Mazda CX SUVs would be a good choice.
Although I will agree that out of all the SUVs out there, the 4R has the best overall looks